Tuesday, 22 December 2009

Get out of losing situations (Part 2 of 3)

Life doesn't have to be that way. Playing the constraints of society against the honesty of a hermit is a powerful literary ploy, not an accurate portrait of reality. You don't need to run away from the world in order to become happy. Reason can show you the way to get out of losing situations and move on to better conditions. The dichotomy presented in Robinson Crusoe makes a great story, but does not match real life.

Independence and self-determination seldom come for free and there is no reason why they should. Each individual must learn to think for himself, beyond the influence of family and friends. Man owes loyalty exclusively to the facts of reality, not to any intellectual fashion.

Getting out of a losing situation depends more on self-confidence than on material resources. Helpful and benevolent people can be of enormous help; especially in difficult times, those are the sort of friends that you want to have.

Your dreams and ambitions are meant to be exchanged only with those who are congenial to your happiness. Do not waste time discussing your plans with people who are inimical to your success. Anyone who admonishes you that you should be content with your current life may not have your best interest in mind.

If prudence counsels you to keep silent about your goals, heed the advice of your heart. Seek out men and women who bring out the best in you. Those are the people who will help you surmount obstacles.

Increasing your personal independence is a fundamental skill that should be taught at school. Everyone can take steps to get out of destructive roles, or even better, to avoid falling into such traps in the first place.

To be continued in Part 3

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

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