Sunday, 13 September 2009

Detecting and avoiding common lies about happiness (Part 2 of 2)


Losing your health, savings, spouse, job, or freedom are problems that must be recognized as such if you want to have any real chance of solving them. Have you ever encountered someone who goes through a traumatic experience and tries to make you believe that everything is for the better, when it is obviously not? Misplaced fantasies aggravate misfortune because they weaken a man's ability to react and get back on his feet.

Our culture places too much emphasis on smiles and too little on rationality. Criminals know well to what extent human beings can be taken in by the appearance of kindness. Faking happiness and understanding can go a long way towards rendering people helpless. If you live in a society that teaches men and women to respect form more than substance, here are four principles that you can use to enhance your ability to act independently.

First, you should discard any ethical arguments that paralyze your initiative. When you are going through troubled times, what you need are ideas that push you towards a better life. People who tell you that you can find happiness in misery are abusing your vulnerability. If you follow their advice, your situation will not improve and you will become dependent on their sweet words.

Second, avoid placing your confidence on promises that appeal to your vanity. Many liars are splendid actors who prey on other people's goodwill. By portraying a false image of happiness, they will attract your attention and make you doubt your senses. Such exploiters will tell you that you are special and will invite you to join their group of followers where you will be asked to pay a heavy fee and take endless obligations upon your shoulders.

Third, throw away vain hopes that are not supported by a specific plan of action. Buying a lottery ticked is not a sound basis for a better future. Stories about people who, from one day to the next, move from misery to fortune can be extraordinary misleading. Happiness rarely comes without sustained effort and you will be better off if you stay away from whoever tells you otherwise.

Fourth, a man should choose walking instead of waiting and learning instead of lamenting. It is undeniable that, during difficult periods, human beings can find deep comfort in the companionship of fellow victims, but exchanging horror stories can easily become a goal of its own. Complaining can generate short-term contentment, but we should not forget that crying and wailing are wasteful activities that can delay the attainment of better living conditions.

In your search for happiness, it is crucial that you reject recommendations based on false premises. Misrepresentation and falsehood will never help you move forward and achieve a better life. Shun the company of those who pretend to possess obscure powers and, instead, do welcome the advice of those who appeal to your reason. Logic writes the only scenarios consistent with Nature and provides the only context where human effort succeeds in turning adversity into success.

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by ralph and jenny under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]

Detecting and avoiding common lies about happiness (Part 2 of 2)


Losing your health, savings, spouse, job, or freedom are problems that must be recognized as such if you want to have any real chance of solving them. Have you ever encountered someone who goes through a traumatic experience and tries to make you believe that everything is for the better, when it is obviously not? Misplaced fantasies aggravate misfortune because they weaken a man's ability to react and get back on his feet.

Our culture places too much emphasis on smiles and too little on rationality. Criminals know well to what extent human beings can be taken in by the appearance of kindness. Faking happiness and understanding can go a long way towards rendering people helpless. If you live in a society that teaches men and women to respect form more than substance, here are four principles that you can use to enhance your ability to act independently.

First, you should discard any ethical arguments that paralyze your initiative. When you are going through troubled times, what you need are ideas that push you towards a better life. People who tell you that you can find happiness in misery are abusing your vulnerability. If you follow their advice, your situation will not improve and you will become dependent on their sweet words.

Second, avoid placing your confidence on promises that appeal to your vanity. Many liars are splendid actors who prey on other people's goodwill. By portraying a false image of happiness, they will attract your attention and make you doubt your senses. Such exploiters will tell you that you are special and will invite you to join their group of followers where you will be asked to pay a heavy fee and take endless obligations upon your shoulders.

Third, throw away vain hopes that are not supported by a specific plan of action. Buying a lottery ticked is not a sound basis for a better future. Stories about people who, from one day to the next, move from misery to fortune can be extraordinary misleading. Happiness rarely comes without sustained effort and you will be better off if you stay away from whoever tells you otherwise.

Fourth, a man should choose walking instead of waiting and learning instead of lamenting. It is undeniable that, during difficult periods, human beings can find deep comfort in the companionship of fellow victims, but exchanging horror stories can easily become a goal of its own. Complaining can generate short-term contentment, but we should not forget that crying and wailing are wasteful activities that can delay the attainment of better living conditions.

In your search for happiness, it is crucial that you reject recommendations based on false premises. Misrepresentation and falsehood will never help you move forward and achieve a better life. Shun the company of those who pretend to possess obscure powers and, instead, do welcome the advice of those who appeal to your reason. Logic writes the only scenarios consistent with Nature and provides the only context where human effort succeeds in turning adversity into success.

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by ralph and jenny under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]