Sunday, 4 October 2009

Before you take advice from anyone (Part 2 of 2)


Making the same mistake repeatedly might bring you down beyond recovery, in particular if you injure your body or alienate people who love you. Reading History is a highly effective way to become conscious of the lethal consequences of subscribing to irrational ideas. Through the centuries, large numbers of individuals have ruined their life by pursuing unworkable projects and burdening themselves with unlimited cost.

Before embarking in any expensive adventure, your should check what the real chances of success are. Errors weigh heavier when men and women become middle-aged and realize that they are half-way through their life and that they no longer enjoy possibilities of endless improvement. Bad advice is typically characterized by a paralysing effect which turns your best talents into liabilities.

Boundless time would render people fearless, but infinity does not exist for individuals. By the time we reach our tenth year of age, we acquire a solid grasp of the meaning of time. The years available to a person for developing his career and relationships are limited. Internalizing that fact pushes irrational people into a chronic state of fear that renders them amenable to manipulation. On the contrary, individuals who have embraced reason are impervious to such apprehensions.

No matter how lucky you are in a specific area, life will always present you with never-ending problems. When situations become critical, self-reliance and psychological resiliency keep rational individuals afloat. Do not listen to advice coming from unethical people and, instead, work at increasing your capacity to respond rationally and effectively to challenges.

Choose learning and experimentation instead of adopting ready-made solutions that lack justification. Through analysis and reflection, you will become a better human being. If you imitate blindly what others are doing, you will jeopardize your capacity to think independently. Accept that acquiring knowledge requires trial and error. Gathering experience at your own pace is worth more that ready-made advice coming from strangers.

Base your actions on facts and logic, check the accuracy of your assumptions, and abandon the fantasy of perfection. When we purchase a new car and begin to drive it, we know that, sooner or later, it is going to become dirty and scratched. If someone tells you that he knows how to prevent a car's normal wear and tear, you know that he is not telling you the truth. You must have the fortitude to turn your back to unrealistic advice and go your own way, in the knowledge that such perfection does not exist.

If we subscribe to impossible beliefs, such as that our vehicle should remain forever intact and clean, we will tend to drive at ridiculously slow speeds that might cause a traffic accident. In addition, we will become extremely upset the first time that our car suffers a minor scratch.

The rational approach to self-development requires that we ignore nonsensical recommendations. Try to excel at whatever you are up to, without attempting to meet unrealistic standards. False expectations lead to wasted effort and create high levels of stress, shame, inhibition, and psychological paralysis.

Give up wrong advice and drop the search of perfection. Adopting a realistic approach to life will enhance your self-reliance. Let your thinking and experience carry you forward on the road to a better life. Take a break from the noise of the world and save yourself from soul corrosion. Paint your dreams in warm colours and let them blossom.

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by Problemkind under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]

Before you take advice from anyone (Part 2 of 2)


Making the same mistake repeatedly might bring you down beyond recovery, in particular if you injure your body or alienate people who love you. Reading History is a highly effective way to become conscious of the lethal consequences of subscribing to irrational ideas. Through the centuries, large numbers of individuals have ruined their life by pursuing unworkable projects and burdening themselves with unlimited cost.

Before embarking in any expensive adventure, your should check what the real chances of success are. Errors weigh heavier when men and women become middle-aged and realize that they are half-way through their life and that they no longer enjoy possibilities of endless improvement. Bad advice is typically characterized by a paralysing effect which turns your best talents into liabilities.

Boundless time would render people fearless, but infinity does not exist for individuals. By the time we reach our tenth year of age, we acquire a solid grasp of the meaning of time. The years available to a person for developing his career and relationships are limited. Internalizing that fact pushes irrational people into a chronic state of fear that renders them amenable to manipulation. On the contrary, individuals who have embraced reason are impervious to such apprehensions.

No matter how lucky you are in a specific area, life will always present you with never-ending problems. When situations become critical, self-reliance and psychological resiliency keep rational individuals afloat. Do not listen to advice coming from unethical people and, instead, work at increasing your capacity to respond rationally and effectively to challenges.

Choose learning and experimentation instead of adopting ready-made solutions that lack justification. Through analysis and reflection, you will become a better human being. If you imitate blindly what others are doing, you will jeopardize your capacity to think independently. Accept that acquiring knowledge requires trial and error. Gathering experience at your own pace is worth more that ready-made advice coming from strangers.

Base your actions on facts and logic, check the accuracy of your assumptions, and abandon the fantasy of perfection. When we purchase a new car and begin to drive it, we know that, sooner or later, it is going to become dirty and scratched. If someone tells you that he knows how to prevent a car's normal wear and tear, you know that he is not telling you the truth. You must have the fortitude to turn your back to unrealistic advice and go your own way, in the knowledge that such perfection does not exist.

If we subscribe to impossible beliefs, such as that our vehicle should remain forever intact and clean, we will tend to drive at ridiculously slow speeds that might cause a traffic accident. In addition, we will become extremely upset the first time that our car suffers a minor scratch.

The rational approach to self-development requires that we ignore nonsensical recommendations. Try to excel at whatever you are up to, without attempting to meet unrealistic standards. False expectations lead to wasted effort and create high levels of stress, shame, inhibition, and psychological paralysis.

Give up wrong advice and drop the search of perfection. Adopting a realistic approach to life will enhance your self-reliance. Let your thinking and experience carry you forward on the road to a better life. Take a break from the noise of the world and save yourself from soul corrosion. Paint your dreams in warm colours and let them blossom.

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by Problemkind under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]