Wednesday, 11 November 2009

Rational values are the basis of great relationships (Part 1 of 3)


Culture and fashion call for conformity. You will be told to go with the flow and not to swim upstream. If it doesn't float, let it sink, you will be urged at every step. Read the writing on the wall, you will hear more often than you want. Accept what everybody knows. The trend is your friend. Nobody ever got anywhere by stepping out of line. There is only one truth and it corresponds to the majority view.

Relinquishing individual thinking and embracing a standard lifestyle brings enormous advantages. For instance, it will save you time when making decisions. It will also spare you embarrassment when it comes to hiding the truth. However, irrationality and conformity cannot provide the basis for good relationships.

The opposite side of the psychological spectrum is filled by non-conformity, which often boils down to blind loyalty to some other style. For instance, non-conformists prefer to practise dangerous sports instead of spending their holidays on the beach.

Their hobbies might include playing exotic games instead of watching films. They seldom go for a walk in the park, but they might spend a fortune on a tour in the tropical forest. The clothes of non-conformists, instead of clean and well ironed, tend to be messy and torn.

Whether you choose conformity or non-conformity as basis for your relationships makes little practical difference. In both cases, your years will be filled with more or less colourful souvenirs, not with happiness. Imitating distorted pictures is not the way to create great paintings.

Adopting values that make no sense will not move you towards success and happiness. The exaltation of inconsistencies will not render your feelings more intense. Walking a downtrodden track leads to a dejected spirit. In the field of love and friendship, thoughtlessness is not a path you want to take.

To be continued in Part 2

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by kelvin.schafli under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]

Rational values are the basis of great relationships
(Part 1 of 3)


Culture and fashion call for conformity. You will be told to go with the flow and not to swim upstream. If it doesn't float, let it sink, you will be urged at every step. Read the writing on the wall, you will hear more often than you want. Accept what everybody knows. The trend is your friend. Nobody ever got anywhere by stepping out of line. There is only one truth and it corresponds to the majority view.

Relinquishing individual thinking and embracing a standard lifestyle brings enormous advantages. For instance, it will save you time when making decisions. It will also spare you embarrassment when it comes to hiding the truth. However, irrationality and conformity cannot provide the basis for good relationships.

The opposite side of the psychological spectrum is filled by non-conformity, which often boils down to blind loyalty to some other style. For instance, non-conformists prefer to practise dangerous sports instead of spending their holidays on the beach.

Their hobbies might include playing exotic games instead of watching films. They seldom go for a walk in the park, but they might spend a fortune on a tour in the tropical forest. The clothes of non-conformists, instead of clean and well ironed, tend to be messy and torn.

Whether you choose conformity or non-conformity as basis for your relationships makes little practical difference. In both cases, your years will be filled with more or less colourful souvenirs, not with happiness. Imitating distorted pictures is not the way to create great paintings.

Adopting values that make no sense will not move you towards success and happiness. The exaltation of inconsistencies will not render your feelings more intense. Walking a downtrodden track leads to a dejected spirit. In the field of love and friendship, thoughtlessness is not a path you want to take.

To be continued in Part 2

[Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com]

[Image by kelvin.schafli under Creative Commons Attribution License. See the license terms under http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/us]