"In matters of love, as well as in all others, time is a great teacher," wrote Giacomo Casanova in his Memories when he was 62 years old. Since his youth in Venice, he had gone a long way, making and losing several fortunes until he had finally found a modest librarian position in the castle of a Czech baron.
In matters of love, as well as in all others, time is a great teacher
From what we know, Casanova was neither
particularly handsome, nor wealthy, nor privileged by family
connections. Nevertheless, the 6.000 pages of his Memories recount a
long string of amorous victories that have made Casanova the archetype
of a successful seducer.
Casanova's Memories were published only
in 1831, that is, 33 years after his death. Many adventures that he
presented in his work are no doubt literary fabrications, but even so,
his writings offer deep insights into human nature and love relations.
contemporary publisher might have titled Casanova's work as "Proven
principles of success in dating." The autobiographical nature of
Casanova's writings enhances their value as teaching material without
making their content less entertaining.
Drawing lessons from someone else's misfortunes and mistakes
Casanova invites the
reader to draw lessons from the misfortunes and mistakes of his literary
hero. His advice includes being properly groomed, using flattery,
frequenting parties and social events, learning to speak well, ignoring
petty offences when courting a prospective lover, being witty, and
choosing the right moment to speak out your heart.
are the sort of recommendations that one finds nowadays in any self-help
book on the subject, why are Casanova's Memories so special? What
particular characteristic makes Casanova's writings so compelling? Why
does his personal example remain so vivid through the years?
The hero is a relentless, driven
answer to this key question is simple: The hero that walks and stumbles
through the 6.000 pages of Casanova's Memories is a relentless, driven
individual. This is, in my view, the ultimate reason for the hero's
success, what allows him to learn from experience and progressively
sharpen his skills to perfection.
In dating, like in anything
else, you have to play the game if you want to become a master. Forget
any fears you might have and get down to action. Relentless practice
will maximise your chances of success. As Casanova put it so well in his
work "Timidity is often another word for stupidity."
For more information about rational living and personal development, I refer you to my book The 10 Principles of Rational Living
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