No matter how hard you work or how motivated you are, sooner or later, bad luck is going to hit you. Otherwise, someone acting negligently or mistakenly might cause your misfortune. Some people are victims of a general shift in the economy, others of a car accident. Adversity just happens.
Are you able to face a painful loss without giving up
hope for the future?
Recovering your peace of mind when life turns for the
worse is a major achievement. Difficult periods test the validity of
your personal philosophy and rightly so. Can your convictions help you
regain serenity? Are you able to face a painful loss without giving up
hope for the future?
Many books recommend naive optimism and
groundless enthusiasm as psychological defences, but none of them works
for long. The human mind cannot sustain effectively beliefs that are not
anchored in reality. Self-manipulation, instead of creating joy, leads
to bitterness and confusion.
What is the first step to improve
your mood when your world seems to be falling apart? My recommendation
is to focus on reality. Forget about empty positivity and gratuitous
cheers. What you need to do is to look hard at your problems and measure
them. Assess the damage and count what is left.
bankruptcy is not bankruptcy itself
An analysis of
the situation should allow you to identify the real trouble. It might be
sickness or the loss of a job. It could be an exploitative relationship
or a wrong career. Whatever the affliction, it is essential to separate
the actual problem from the emotional reaction. Worrying about
bankruptcy is not bankruptcy itself.
Make an effort to
distinguish the facts from the folklore around the facts. Unless you are
in jail or suffering from terminal illness, most situations can be
turned around. We all possess an innate inclination to exaggerate our
misfortunes to a ridiculous extent. Emotions magnify problems.
rational response to adversity begins with reducing difficulties to
their proper size. Do not let yourself be overwhelmed by seemingly
endless negative consequences that might occur in the future. Force
yourself to drop irrational concerns and concentrate exclusively on the
problem at hand.
The key to maintaining your peace of mind in times of stress
Sickness is destructive and unpleasant, but you
might still have many years left to enjoy life. A loss of employment or
reputation can reduce your current income, but nothing prevents you from
changing direction. To rebuild your finances, there are countless
options that you can explore.
To recover your peace of mind, you
don't need to become optimistic. What you want to gain is perspective,
the path to serenity. Can you appraise your concerns and muster enough
strength to shrug your shoulders? Try to say "so what?" and mean it.
Once you get past that point, you are on your way.
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