You can live the soft way or the hard way. Provoking unnecessary conflict and behaving aggressively are not symptoms of a strong personality, but of serious psychological trouble. To make headway when matters get complicated, thinking is a thousand times more valuable than shouting.
Bridging the distance
Unfortunately, on many occasions, knowing what to do
is not the difficult part. What is hard is actually taking action. Have
you realized how good children are at devising excuses for not doing
what they know to be correct? Bridging the distance between ideas and
implementation is a universal problem.
Habits represent the most
visible and stable part of our personality. They can play against us, if
they are destructive, or they can push us in the right direction, when
they favour our goals. Even in our days of cultural relativism, many
still regard the acquisition of beneficial habits as the central purpose
Those who have incorporated good routines into
their daily life enjoy enormous advantages over the rest of the
population. Not only will they advance faster on the professional track,
but they will also tend to live happier, healthier, and longer. Here
are three habits that are uncomfortable to develop, but which pay huge
dividends down the road: making lists, setting priorities, and saying no to recklessness.
Writing by hand
common notes that we make for ourselves are to-do lists. Why not compile
as well a list of long-term objectives, books that you intend to read,
places you want to visit, or companies in which you would like to
invest? Writing down ideas by hand on a piece of paper is often faster
than typing them into a laptop or cell phone.
Setting priorities is as important in our private life as
it is in business. We all tend to procrastinate when the moment comes to
carry out chores we dislike. In those cases, human beings love to
invent reasons to postpone activities that should be performed right
away. The discipline of forcing ourselves to do unpleasant tasks first
is as hard to acquire as it is invaluable.
It is regrettable to witness how frequently movies,
television, and magazines portray reckless adventurers as heroes.
Professionals who work in hazardous environments go to great lengths to
adopt all sorts of precautions. Even those who possess combat training
are reluctant to engage when they lack knowledge of the territory and
enemy forces. Never place yourself in explosive situations unless you
have indisputable reasons to do so.
When things get tough, don't
allow problems to get you off the track. Doing the right things properly
and consistently, day after day, is a simple and effective way to
develop your potential.
Make the effort to cultivate the correct habits
and let them move your life forward on automatic pilot. Ambition might
take you places, but its ports of call always remain uncertain. Routine,
on the other hand, will show you regular progress and establish the
foundations of unbreakable self-confidence.
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