Wednesday, 31 January 2018

How to make highly likely that good things will happen to you

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If you are prepared, good things will happen to you. Closed doors will open, opportunities will materialise, and jobs will become available. Preparedness brings not only material benefits, but also psychological ones such as self-reliance, a highly desirable trait.

Through education, apprehensive kids can become stars. Through training, people who are fearful of every shadow can learn to thrive in new challenges. Through preparation, men who used to be suspicious of every innovation can make themselves supremely confident.

We should all welcome means and ideas that help us face life courageously. While despair can make people retreat into disaffected tunnels, self-reliance can motivate them to figure out the shortest way to attain their objectives.

Look farther ahead

Training and education, reading and learning, enable us to see farther ahead. Preparedness helps us build the conviction that achievement is possible, and success within reach. The ability to look ahead with confidence give us an extra advantage. While some people are so afraid to slip that they keep their eyes focused on the ground, individuals with vision will continue to prepare themselves, and reinforce their self-confidence.

How long does it take for a person to learn to turn defeats into victories? While in the eyes of worried men, achievement is a receding point in the horizon, rational individuals will keep pursuing their objectives relentlessly. Since they know that ambitious goals will always involve difficult obstacles, they just keep trudging forward day after day.

If you talked to elderly men in the late twentieth century, you must have heard how they returned from World War II without any savings, sometimes physically or mentally wounded, and had to rebuild their lives from scratch. They trusted their ability to find opportunities, start families, build houses, accumulate wealth, and lead a happy existence.

The only way those men knew was the way forward. Each step was preparing them for the next. What they learnt one day, they put in practice the next. Training was done on the job. On many occasions, they resorted to evening education to get the knowledge they needed to move ahead. Their self-confidence was the result of their willingness to absorb new information.

Mental resilence

Preparedness helps individuals overcome shyness and develop mental resilience. A man who has acquired specific skills has been, at the same time, training himself to deal calmly and successfully with obstacles. Rationality enhances our capacity to solve problems and overcome life's perils.

Developing an active mind enables us to surmount adversity and avert danger. Self-reliance help us  assess risks prudently, and discard exaggerated fears. Preparedness and education, either formal or self-acquired, are going to reinforce our creativity. Imagination and innovation are characteristics of rational men. Those faculties are unknown to people living in ignorance and fear.

When things go wrong, unreasonable men will always blame the world. In contrast, obstacles are going to prompt self-confident individuals to reassess their options, choose the best alternative, and redouble their efforts. While ignorant people tend to see adversity as final, prepared individuals will view obstacles as manageable, and mistakes as part of the learning process.

Fertile ground

Trees planted on fertile ground will keep growing year in, year out. Learning and education constitute the fruitful ground where our self-confidence can take root. The conviction that new knowledge can be acquired and mastered is crucial to motivating us to further achievements.

Self-reliance is going to enable us to try new approaches, and ensure our long-term success. By the time a cautious person begins to move, a fearless innovator has already gone through a whole cycle of failure, recovery, and improvement.

In all fields, learning is going to involve errors, usually lots of them, until you acquire the expertise necessary to achieve your objectives. Self-confidence will help you not to pay too much attention to occasional failures. Resilience will prevent your doubts from ever turning into paralysis.

Mistakes are part of the learning curve in any endeavour, whether private or professional. Detailed, valuable knowledge needs to be acquired through experience. Trial and error will only build your self-confidence further. If you keep preparing yourself for life's challenges, it's only a matter of time before you'll see the tide turn in your favour.


Image: photograph by John Vespasian, 2015.

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