Tuesday, 12 November 2019

There is no way to improve your life. Change is impossible. Or maybe not.

Millions of people spend their days trying to convince themselves that change is impossible. They feel trapped in their profession, job, spouse, friendships, and financial obligations. The feel constrained to the extent that any attempt at improving their situation seems doomed to fail. While they remain passive, life is passing them by. Eventually, they give up all hope of amelioration.

There are many reasons that explain why someone will experience the feeling of being totally driven by external events, but those reasons are not going to hold water for long. Pressures will come and go, but you can keep moving forward if you possess a strong sense of direction. You will change for the better if you know what you want. You will get things done if you keep pursuing your objectives persistently and realistically.

If you look around, you can find a million justifications for doing nothing. A million justifications for defeatism and immobility. However, those justifications will not resist a close scrutiny. Once you start taking steps in the right direction, you will see those justifications fall apart quickly and irreversibly. Do not let them make you feel powerless.

Thirteen examples from real life

The truth is that, every year, thousands of people are undertaking to change their lives profoundly. Changes can be tangential or fundamental, low-risk or decisive, reluctant or resolute. What really counts is that you have taken decisions and are carrying them out. Once you start walking, you can go a long way.

Difficult or not, individuals will do what they have to do if they are convinced that it's their best option. Here are some examples of changes that people are undertaking in order to improve their lives:

  1. Sell their house in the city, move to a village, and build up a whole new existence there. Or move to live on the coast. Or in the mountains. Or in a different country.
  2. Drop out of their current circle of friends from one day to the next, and seek out new friends with values and interests more aligned to theirs.
  3. Go through their kitchen, throw away unhealthy food, and commit to purchasing exclusively wholesome items in the future. No more excessive calories. No more junk food.
  4. Look for a job in a field unconnected to their previous experience, just because they feel fascinated by that field. Do not listen to naysayers who are trying to keep you immobilised.
  5. Buy a bicycle and ride it every day for an hour. Do not listen to those who are telling you that it's so difficult to find time to exercise. Block out the necessary time. Do it every day. Turn exercising into a routine you cannot do without.
  6. Unplug their television set, give it away, and never spend another minute watching TV shows. You will draw much more from life if you allocate your time judiciously. Do not waste your evenings and weekends on mindless entertaining.
  7. Learn a foreign language and find a job in another continent, in a city where you don't know anybody. The experience can massively increase your self-assurance, professional success, and happiness level.
  8. Cancel their affiliation to an organisation that has been part of their lives for decades, and cut their links with former associates. If you want to build a new life, you will first have to clean the desk. You will first have to through the ballast overboard.
  9. Sell their possessions (including also their car), move to a tax heaven, and change their nationality. Read stories of people who have done so. The phenomenon is more common than you would have thought. Low-tax and low-cost countries are more numerous than you would have considered.
  10. Throw away all tobacco and alcohol at home, and never purchase or consume those again. No more hard liquor. Goodbye to an unhealthy lifestyle.
  11. Start up their own business during evenings and weekends, while keeping their present job. Grow their business until the earnings will allow them to quit their job.
  12. Read about nutrition, learn to cook healthy food, and lose the excessive weight they had accumulated over the years.
  13. Tell their spouse that they want a divorce, move to another place, and start building a new life.
These cases are not as rare as you may think. People who are embracing major personal changes come from all walks of life. Middle-aged or old, male or female, they will hesitate long until, one day, they make the big decision.

Their determination to take a new road will frequently antagonise their family and friends, but so what? In order to change your life and improve your future, you will first have to escape other people's expectations of immobility.

How to gather the necessary courage

It takes lots of determination to embark on this sort of journey. More often than not, what prompts individuals to change their lives is the realisation that their time on earth is limited. Such a realisation may happen suddenly as a result of major illness, or little by little, when people have progressively outgrown previous constraints.

When was the last time you revised your long-term objectives? What aspects of your life do you wish to improve in the next five years? Taking a few days off to reflect might be all you need to get started.

It's high time to step out of unsatisfactory routines. It's high time to embark on major changes and take unconventional paths. Once you make the decision, you are on your way. Let me wish you a successful (although not necessarily smooth) transition.

Text: http://johnvespasian.blogspot.com

Image: Photograph of ancient sculptures. Photograph taken by John Vespasian, 2018.

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